Hi All,

I have been doing a Show for the last 16 years and have agreed to co-chair the Show this year. It is the 20th year for this Show. I am working with my best friend and now know why people say not to work with people that you are close to. I am having a terrible time trying to figure out how to tell her that I would rather be a vendor next year than to co-chair. I am doing all the work (advertising, vendors etc.). She is just doing the decorating. I am totally burned out to the point that I am sick. Can anyone give me some ideas as to how to tell her.

Hi,
I find nothing wrong with just being upfront, honest with the person whether she is a very close friend or just an acquaintance or co-worker. As a matter of fact, it should be easier to be perfectly honest with a friend. It is not necessary to tell her your feelings about her work ethic. Just be honest about the direction you wish to head in. If the situation were reversed, would you want your friend to continue doing something she was absolutely sick of? Do you think your friend would want this for you? Just do not make it about her. Make it about you.
Your artform should be a joyful pursuit and if chairing the shows is no longer fulfilling, it is time to move on. Your pal just might surprise you and feel the same way. And, if the worse happens, and she is upset because you are moving in another direction, that needs to be her problem, not yours.
Hope this hasn't sounded too preachy but I've been there, done that and have found honesty is, indeed, the best policy.
Best wishes, let us know how it goes.